When Moms Feel Unwanted: Finding Yourself Again and Embracing Your Worth
There are days as a Mom when you feel invisible, like all your effort goes unnoticed. You love your kids, your family, and the life you’ve built, but some days, it’s hard not to feel lost in the shuffle. If you’ve ever felt like this, let me say first: You are not alone. It’s okay to feel this way, and it doesn’t make you a bad mom. In fact, it makes you human.
In this post, I want to talk about something many moms experience but don’t often discuss: feeling unwanted or unappreciated. I’ll share some insights on why this happens, how to embrace those challenging emotions, and what you can do to find yourself again.
Why Moms Often Feel Unwanted
Let’s face it—motherhood comes with a lot of invisible work. From remembering every little detail about your kids’ schedules to managing the emotional load of the household, it’s easy to feel like your contributions go unnoticed. Add societal pressures to “do it all” without breaking a sweat, and it’s no wonder so many of us feel overwhelmed or unappreciated.
It’s important to remember that these feelings don’t mean you’re failing as a mom. They’re a reflection of how much you care and how much you give.
It’s Okay to Embrace Your Emotions
When you’re feeling unwanted, the first step is to give yourself permission to feel those emotions. It’s okay to feel sad, frustrated, or even angry. These feelings are valid, and acknowledging them can be the first step toward healing.
For me, journaling has been a powerful tool. Writing down my thoughts helps me process them and gain a little clarity. Talking to someone I trust—whether it’s a friend, partner, or therapist—also helps lighten the emotional load.
Reconnecting with Yourself
As moms, we pour so much into our families that it’s easy to forget about ourselves. One thing I’ve learned is that finding time for myself isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. Even small moments can make a difference, like enjoying a cup of tea in silence or going for a short walk.
If there’s a hobby or passion you’ve let go of, consider bringing it back into your life. For me, rediscovering [insert your personal hobby or interest] has been a game-changer. It reminds me that I’m more than just “Mom.”
Building a Support System
No one should have to carry the weight of motherhood alone. If you’re feeling unappreciated, try reaching out to your support system. This could be your partner, family members, or even a local mom group. If you don’t feel like you have a strong network, there are so many online communities where moms come together to share their experiences and support each other.
Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a sign of strength. Whether it’s delegating tasks or just asking someone to listen, leaning on others can make a world of difference.
Daily Affirmations to Empower Yourself
One thing I’ve started doing is practicing daily affirmations. It may feel awkward at first, but repeating simple, positive statements to yourself can help shift your mindset over time. Here are a few that resonate with me:
- I am enough.
- I am loved and valued.
- I deserve care and compassion, too.
Saying these to myself—even on the hard days—reminds me that my worth isn’t tied to what I accomplish or how others see me.
If you’re reading this and nodding along, I want you to know that it’s okay to feel unwanted sometimes. It doesn’t make you less of a mom or less of a person. These feelings are part of the journey, and they don’t define you. Take it one step at a time, and don’t forget to show yourself the same love and care you so freely give to others. You’ve got this, and you’re not alone.
